Client Newsletter

May 2006

What is Anal Massage?

I thought I'd use this newsletter to write a bit about anal massage which can be a very pleasurable and relaxing experience. Many muscles can only be reached via anal massage but anal touch can bring up concerns for many men.

Anatomy

Many men aren't aware of the anatomy of the anal area. The anal canal is about a 1 inch long tube-shaped structure that is controlled by two muscles at each end. On the outside is your anus is your external sphincter muscle. This muscle is voluntary - you can tighten and loosen it at will. This muscle can open wide without much difficulty and the area is loaded with sensitive nerve endings.

At the other end of the anal canal is the internal sphincter muscle. This muscle is involuntary - you can't control is at will. However, it is effected by your level of tension or relaxation. If you are tense, this muscle is probably tight. If you are relaxed, the muscle is probably also relaxed. This muscle can't be relaxed by touch or pressure; this is why if you're not ready for anal touch it can hurt. Anal touch should only be attempted when you're ready for it and should never hurt. Pain is your body's way of telling you you're not ready. Listen to your body.

Once you are past these two muscles, you are in the rectum. Your rectum is a delicate pouch lined with many muscles but few nerve endings. It's about the size of a small fist - about 5 to 6 inches long. However, the pouch can get smaller if you're nervous or tense. It can also get slightly longer by narrowing a bit.

Prostate Gland

The prostate can be easily massaged with internal touch. The prostate is located about 3 to 4 inches inside toward the front of your body (at the base of the penis). Many men find light massage of the prostate pleasurable. Generally repeated pushing or poking on the prostate can be irritating. Also, the urethra passes through the prostate and touch here may feel to you like you need to piss. But a light stroking from side to side is a very pleasurable and intense sensation. A bit of ejaculate is not uncommon during prostate massage.

Massage

Anal massage can be very powerful and healing. There are many nerve endings around the anus that can be very pleasurable. But many men have constantly tight muscles in this area. We need caring, nurturing touch to relax these muscles. Also, some of us have concerns about anal touch because culturally it's considered dirty or taboo. Others may have had trauma from a previous bad experience.

I do all anal touch following a strict hygienic protocol. I use exam gloves and disposable cups to ensure lotion or lube is not shared between clients.

The actual technique is an intuitive process that is different for each person. I do anal massage along with traditional therapeutic massage to help relax your body. Slow and gentle is the best way to experience anal touch. Your body tells me a lot about how slow and gentle to be.

We will of course talk before the massage begins about your concerns and boundaries. I will always respect those boundaries regardless of what your body tells me.

I may proceed with internal touch on men who have relaxed anal muscles. Other men may have a lot of tension, I will spend as much time as needed gently massaging the external anal muscles. There are several external anal strokes that are incredibly pleasurable. External touch alone can be very pleasurable and healing - there is never any pressure for internal touch.

I perform internal touch only when your body tells me it's ready. My gloved finger should slide easily in - it is never forced. Once inside, I will begin to massage the many pelvic muscles that can only be reached from internal massage. Many men have never had these muscles massaged and are amazed at how relaxing this can be. I'll also gently massage your prostate. I also massage your coccyx (tailbone) from the inside. There are many muscles that attach to this bone and a gentle coccyx massage is so relaxing!

Many men have asked me questions about anal cleaning. In the next newsletter I'll chat a bit about how to do anal cleansing. For further reading, I suggest you take a look at Anal Pleasure & Health by Jack Morin, Ph.D.. It's available at Amazon. This is an excellent text on everything you wanted to know about this often overlooked part of the body.

I invite you to make an appointment and experience the joys of anal massage for yourself!

I'll be Available in Phoenix in June

I'm going to be in Phoenix on Monday & Tuesday June 12 & 13 to take care of some things with my house there. I'll have my table and will have a limited number of appointments available. Let me know if you would like to schedule time with me while I'm there - same location as before. Send me an email or phone me at 602-790-8237 if you would like to schedule an appointment while I'm in town.