I’m tired of this damn wheel. It also seems like almost everyone I know is on their own wheel too. Our culture and technology conspire to get us on the wheel and are relentless about keeping us there. I’ve been spending time lately with learning how to take a break.

We all need breaks. I spend half my work life developing websites and the other half doing bodywork and coaching. I love the forced breaks this arrangement gives me. When I get too intense in one area (which is really easy for me), I’m confronted with a change of pace which pushes me off the wheel.

What can I do to get off the wheel more often? I can take short time outs for myself during the day. Simply taking 5 to 10 minutes and taking a short walk around the block can change my demeanor. Get up and walk around your workplace floor. Make a commitment to regular body movement. Make time for a satisfying erotic life.

Consciously beginning and ending the day can be helpful. When you wake up resist the temptation to hit the snooze button repeatedly and then panic and jump out of bed going full speed. Take those 10 minutes and breathe. Gently move your body. Connect with your erotic self. There are a variety of ways to welcome the day. End your day just as consciously. Turn off the TV. Meditate for a bit before bed. Don’t go to bed full (I do this way too often!)

Years ago we were able to leave work and relax in the evening and over the weekends. Now, that’s painfully difficult to do. Try turning your phone and email off for a while. Negotiate response times in your work and live up to those times, but also understand the cost of exceeding and becoming too responsive. Look at the circle of friends you have. Personally, I can’t maintain relationships with hundreds of ‘friends.’ Some of us may do better with a smaller number of closer friends.

Finally, my life is controlled by my calendar. OK, actually I do control my calendar, but if it’s not on the calendar it probably won’t happen. My solution for that is to put my time off and fun things and relax time on the calendar too. I’ve found this simple idea really help make the personal time happen.

Mindful Self-Loving continues on the third Monday of each month. We gather next on Monday September 19 at Eros in San Francisco at 6:30. Generating and playing with erotic energy in a group is definitely different than doing it alone. For most guys, a supportive of erotic explorers can add to the experience, even if you're a bit shy. Many men find that a group encourages each other to let go of preconceived notions and connect on a profound energetic level.

We meet in a private space not connected with the rest of the activity at Eros. You do not need to pay an admission fee to Eros for this workshop; however, you may optionally enjoy the facilities at Eros after the workshop by paying a separate admission fee. Please bring a towel.

Be well,
Ed

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